The good news is for now, everyone seems to be stable. Things are not rosy and Christmas will be bittersweet, but will deal with it.
On my son’s 24th birthday my Mother in law had a stroke. I took her to the ER where she had been several years earlier for a trip and fall while walking her dog. She is now in a rehab center where she used to work and has a steady stream of employees coming to visit and catch up.
The next morning my Mother, who had been vomiting all night was taken by ambulance to the ER at big northern California medical center and teaching hospital. She in currently in the Oncology floor.
Two Grandma’s fell ill with in 15 hours of each other. Our two families have been doing a lot of miles visiting. My children have double travel miles.
My Mother’s doctors have been giving us lots of information and telling us each step what they have found and what the next step will be. I have never seen my Mother in laws doctors. Her own children have contact with them and my husband has been at work and only sees his Mom in the evenings.
I have had lots of contact with nurses however. This was a very different experience than what I am used to.
Because of my children’s medical problems I have been in the hospital a few too many times. What I learned from this past experience with adult nurses is this:
1. The patient board in room where there is a place for the family to write questions, concerns ect.
Don’t. It was just for looks.
2. If you have questions about when the last pain medication was given, was the fever up or down, did they sleep well during the night?
Don’t ask. If they want you to know something, they will tell you.
3. Do not, do not, do not, call in the middle of the night and ask how they are doing. This seems to be a very busy time for them and the person answering the phone will just tell you to call back later because the nurse in in a room with a patient.
4. The first 2 hours of the shift is “shift change” and nurses are unable to answer any question. Refer to the above number 2.
- and mind you I was dealing with two completely different hospitals simultaneously.